Have you ever self-sabotaged a perfect day of eating by indulging in bite after bite or piece after piece of a high calorie food after dinner, when you aren’t hungry, but you are searching for something more? If so, this fits the description of cravings, when we keep seeking something more but never quite feel satisfied. This is a very common and very frustrating form of eating self-sabotage.
Cravings can be good or bad
We’ve all had cravings and, when accompanied by hunger, they can be very useful, steering us towards the perfect meal. Sometimes cravings induce us to eat a nutrient we are missing by guiding us to a particular food, like pickles. When cravings lead us to self-sabotage our eating, however, they represent something else.
Cravings – searching and searching
Our searching and searching for something more can be generally traced to an unresolved feeling of deprivation. Somewhere along the line we didn’t feel we got enough of whatever it was we wanted. Over our life, we unconsciously became attracted to this feeling of being denied and we recycle this emotion in our adult life over and over in everyday situations.
If we have a craving for chocolate, it means that we simply can’t resist the urge to eat the chocolate. We might have a quick inner battle with ourselves, but we usually give in, feeling completely powerless to our cravings. Then we eat the chocolate, standing by like a helpless child, feeling like we had no control over our decision. In the end, we feel like we have no will power, no self-control.
Become a sleuth
Instead of beating ourselves up, we must put on our sleuth hat and ask a few questions. One question we might ask ourselves is, “What role do we play in our own sense of deprivation?” Another question might be, “How do we contribute to this situation where we feel so helpless to our cravings?”
What’s our role?
Becoming aware of what’s driving our self-sabotage is paramount to any kind of change. Taking responsibility to our own role in our self-sabotage is another important step forward. We are not always victims. Most of the time we are principle players in our own self-defeating behavior, we just aren’t entirely aware of it. Recognizing and accepting our own hand in our own misery is really important. Realizing that we don’t have to become helpless to our cravings can be the catalyst for big change. Do you struggle with cravings? Do you feel helpless to your cravings? If you need more information, come over to my website and sign up for my free 3-Lesson email course to stop self-sabotage.